Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Pretty shift dress

I really like this Green dress from Yumi. One for Christmas maybe?

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Love in different languages

I do love words that you can't quite translate in a way that captures their whole meaning and Hindi and Sanskrit are full of those. My name - Arpana - is a little bit like that. It means dedicated/ Offering to God/set apart or something quite similar. The really sweet compilation below is by Pamela Haag at Big Think. My favourite is Cafuné. It's great that there's even a word that means that!

Here are ten words, compiled from online collections, to describe love, desire and relationships that have no real English translation, but that capture subtle realities that even we English speakers have felt once or twice. As I came across these words I’d have the occasional epiphany: “Oh yeahThat’s what I was feeling...

Mamihlapinatapei (Yagan, an indigenous language of Tierra del Fuego): The wordless yet meaningful look shared by two people who desire to initiate something, but are both reluctant to start. 

Yuanfen (Chinese): A relationship by fate or destiny. This is a complex concept. It draws on principles of predetermination in Chinese culture, which dictate relationships, encounters and affinities, mostly among lovers and friends.
From what I glean, in common usage yuanfen means the "binding force" that links two people together in any relationship. 

Cafuné (Brazilian Portuguese): The act of tenderly running your fingers through someone's hair.

Retrouvailles (French):  The happiness of meeting again after a long time. 
This is such a basic concept, and so familiar to the growing ranks of commuter relationships, or to a relationship of lovers, who see each other only periodically for intense bursts of pleasure. I’m surprised we don’t have any equivalent word for this subset of relationship bliss. It’s a handy one for modern life.

Ilunga (Bantu): A person who is willing to forgive abuse the first time; tolerate it the second time, but never a third time.
Apparently, in 2004, this word won the award as the world’s most difficult to translate. Although at first, I thought it did have a clear phrase equivalent in English: It’s the “three strikes and you’re out” policy. But ilunga conveys a subtler concept, because the feelings are different with each “strike.” The word elegantly conveys the progression toward intolerance, and the different shades of emotion that we feel at each stop along the way.

La Douleur Exquise (French): The heart-wrenching pain of wanting someone you can’t have.
When I came across this word I thought of “unrequited” love. It’s not quite the same, though. “Unrequited love” describes a relationship state, but not a state of mind. Unrequited love encompasses the lover who isn’t reciprocating, as well as the lover who desires. La douleur exquise gets at the emotional heartache, specifically, of being the one whose love is unreciprocated.

Koi No Yokan (Japanese): The sense upon first meeting a person that the two of you are going to fall into love. 
This is different than “love at first sight,” since it implies that you might have a sense of imminent love, somewhere down the road, without yet feeling it. The term captures the intimation of inevitable love in the future, rather than the instant attraction implied by love at first sight.
Ya’aburnee (Arabic): “You bury me.” It’s a declaration of one’s hope that they’ll die before another person, because of how difficult it would be to live without them.
Forelsket: (Norwegian):  The euphoria you experience when you’re first falling in love.
This is a wonderful term for that blissful state, when all your senses are acute for the beloved, the pins and needles thrill of the novelty. There’s a phrase in English for this, but it’s clunky. It’s “New Relationship Energy,” or NRE.
Saudade (Portuguese): The feeling of longing for someone that you love and is lost. Another linguist describes it as a "vague and constant desire for something that does not and probably cannot exist."


Our Victorian Terrace has lots of alcoves and I'm trying to think of interesting things to do with them as they've currently just got old shelves or nothing in them..
Here are some really lovely ones.

Really love the dressing table in this alcove from House to Homes.

There seems to be a pattern of wall papered alcoves. This one is from House to Homes as well.

I think we need to find a nice mirror as well...hmm...

Friday, November 25, 2011

Autumnwatching today

Today I'm off to help out on the Autumnwatch set at the WWT in Slimbridge. Autumnwatch is a hugely popular live show and you'd love it if you were between 50 and 95 years old. Steve was going to come along and be in the audience and then chickened out yesterday. (He's much too good looking for BBC 2 anyway ;)
This, along with some work I did on Live and Deadly (smash hit with 7 year olds) is to help me get some experience of Live wildlife television in preperation for when Fight for Life goes out next May. We've just been told our very exciting *top secret* presenter has been signed. :O
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Monday, November 21, 2011

Furnishing fun

We're in the middle of furnishing our currently dysfunctional lounge and I'd love to have some semblance of a nice room before Christmas. All we've got at the moment is a lovely period fireplace that looks a bit like this and a cream soft - leather sofa that's on it's way. I am loving whites and neutrals with lots of wood at the moment and the room in the picture makes me drool!

Lots more yummy living rooms here.


I stumbled across this blog post by Ruth today and it made me very happy! Like Steve said, "Oh dear!! There’s two of you!!"

Autumn talking..

I was thinking today how much I wished I had blog records for the very exciting 7 months between getting engaged and our wedding. Possibly the busiest and most stressful time of my life, yet so special in many ways. I feel amazed at how bits and pieces fell into place, and people (dozens and dozens of them) rallied round to help create such a perfect, happy day.

We've been married 6 weeks now and have a lovely lovely home (so excited about doing it up together!) and there's a pattern emerging of things coming together nicely. Come to think of it, that's probably been the case for all of the last 24 years I've known. I'm very grateful, to a very faithful God.

This is so I won't look back in another year and wish I had jotted down bits from the last here goes!

One of the little routines we've got into is sharing a buttered bagel before we run out the house each morning. Steve's job is to toast and butter and we often eat them as we walk down Greenbank road to the station. Is it trivial to be thankful for Bagel Mornings?